It’s that time of year…
Well, it’s that time of the year again. You know, time to pull out the real scarfs, time to brace yourself for those hefty gas bills and time for a little jingle bells, jingle bells, but it’s also a great time to begin to look forward to the New Year that’s literally, days away?!
Maybe, the thought of another New Year is exciting for you, which is fantastic, but I’m finding, that for some women, there’s nothing “new” about this New Year or the one before last. Yes, the champagne was popped and the calendars changed, but when all the confetti cleared away, too many women are left stuck, waiting for the past to show up differently.
What do I mean by waiting for the past to show up differently?
First, let me say this, I know what it’s like to be in a holding pattern. Yes, you’re paying bills, you’re aging, but deep within, you’re at a stand still – I was waiting for “the guy” to show up better than he did before, for more years than I care to mention. In my mind, I was like, “I know he’s got it in him to come at me better than he did before,” but nope, that knock never came to my door.
How about if you’ve suffered a different kind of loss? The devastation of losing that person, position or promise for whatever reason can be traumatic and it can cause immense grief, so much so, that you just don’t quite do life the way you use to.
I know, this isn’t the warm and fuzzy holiday blog post or the gurl-l-l get your future and finances fab for the New Year, but I do think it’s a timely message.
See, just before the New Year is a great time to #GetEngaged with one’s heart, which can positively impact one’s mind, soul and life. Think about it, who really wants to be stuck? No one signs up to be emotionally cemented to the past – yet, the heart is so tricky and powerful, it can store the remnants of people, places and things that we hold dear. That’s why what you allow in your heart matters deeply. You may’ve heard, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” (Prov. 4:23, NLT). Well, how has this Scriptural truth showed up in your life?
Are you still waiting for someone or something to show up differently? I know, for me, it took serious truth, ah–work, but I finally began to recognize myself, my value and my purpose, and eventually, I got freed up to wait no longer! So, I encourage you to stop and ask yourself: Am I waiting for the past to show up differently?
If you think, you might be stuck in a holding pattern too…
Here’s 3 Amazingly Practical Ways to Get Unstuck:
1. Do your best to stop talking about the person, place or thing as if nothing has changed. What you speak matters. If you desire to move forward, then speak forward.
2. Do the internal work (prayer, counseling, journaling, etc.) to assess why you got stuck in the first place. Why? Because you want to be able to identify any patterns. Also, acknowledging the truth of the matter is healing within itself.
3. Do reject all negative thoughts & self-talk that makes you feel bad about yourself. You’re human and you have a heart that got hurt, which can cause grief and all grief takes time.
Lastly, I hope you know that getting stuck in some area of life is pretty common because most human beings like some form of comfort and enjoy having a “script” to life, so when the script changes, it can be difficult to adjust, but you can do it!